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In this excerpt, she writes that in order to find love, women should not pursue men. An excerpt. I sent multiple text messages, wore my shortest skirts, and practically threw myself at him before he noticed me. We all want a guy to approach us, fall madly in love, and not be able to wait to call us. So how do you make that happen?
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First of all, we live in an extremely deceiving society. Casual sex is oh-so-glamorous through the lens of movies and TV. Instant messaging, texting, and video messages are the norm between guys and girls. But the painful, real-life truth is that none of this works. How, you may ask?
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Let me count the ways. In no particular order, we have the following means of scaring off a new guy: e-mailing, Facebook messaging, MySpace stalking, texting, calling, showing up unannounced, inviting him over, and did I mention coming on too strong? Relationships are a big deal to us. We spend hours prepping ourselves for a date and even more time obsessing about what our potential children will look like and whether or not our initials mesh nicely.
Conclusion: girls love love. This age-old plot could explain the rapid popularity of said movie. I know all of us ladies love that love story, and as much as they might grumble, deep down, every guy likes the movie, too even my husband, who has a beard, drives a truck, and aspires to be a lumberjack.
Because it is, without a doubt, the ideal, most picturesque illustration of romance: guys want a girl to chase after, and girls want a guy to want to track them down. Guys still want to pursue the girl, and no amount of cell phones, sex tapes, and IM conversations are going to change that.
And what do guys want to do? Chase things!
Sometimes it may feel like we are the only ones in this confusing cycle, but this whole process has been around since the beginning of time. Men are natural-born hunters — they like the thrill of the chase.
They love a good pursuit. Herman, married seventy-eight years: I met Emma when I was eighteen and she was just sixteen. So we started seeing each other and were married two months later.
That was a long time ago! Joey, married eleven years: I had to go after Brandi.
Greg, married forty-two years: I had to pursue Carol. Two of our mutual friends even tried to set us up on a date, but she refused! We went to a high school basketball game together, and the rest is history. I met Tina when we were playing a show at a small club in this obscure town in Alaska.
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Christopher, married seventeen years: I had to do all the work! She was a cheerleader, she was so cute, and I knew that I just had to say something to her afterward. So I waited around for an hour and a half after the game to talk to her.
Al, married thirty-three years: Well, we were only in eighth grade, but I still had to do the pursuing! I wrote Paula a note, asking if she would go steady. She said yes, and we dated all through high school and got married the day she turned eighteen!
My sweet boy Drew had to do the pursuing, as well — I even turned him down twice before agreeing to a date, because I thought he was too quiet. Luckily, he mustered up what dignity he had left and asked again, and as it turns out, the third time was the charm.
To snag a man, let him do the chasing
Even rock stars and celebrities have to do some pursuing. Honestly, that kind of freaks us out. When Rob Thomas met his future wife, Marisol, she apparently was not impressed with him or his appearance, and he had to pursue, as well. It all goes back to not making yourself too accessible. Texting incessantly — especially two hours after you met him to say how much you liked the shirt that he wore tonight. Nothing drains the elusive female mystique faster than a text message that showcases your innermost thoughts and feelings.
Texting does not leave him wanting more. Social network interaction — nothing says overzealous like a creepy MySpace friend request, and I have yet to meet a girl that ended up with a guy she stalked online. Until then, the key is to keep him wanting more. All rights reserved. IE 11 is not supported. For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser. Share this —.
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